Remember not to Dwell on the Losses
It seems like the time of year when we stop to take a breath, we seem drawn to looking back and reflecting. Have you started your look back on the year yet? You know you will. We all do it.
My wish for you is that you don’t get stuck in the losses chapter of your story. It’s easy to do, don’t you think? I don’t just mean loss due to the passing of a person or beloved pet. I mean loss of friendships or relationships or connections. People you thought were part of your “family” or “community”. People you had disagreements with and the relationships never recovered. Or people you realized didn’t have your best interests at heart so you walked away from the connection. Other people who were overwhelmed with their lives and didn’t have the energy to devote to a relationship. Its easy to see that we can get stuck in the losses chapter.
When you are done with the losses chapter, please do me a favor and open up to the other chapters of this year’s story. I mean seriously if you focus on the positive side of your year, I promise you will be surprised at how many wonderful things happened. Perhaps you met new people who have impacted your life or how you look at things. Maybe you started a new job or career and while its been challenging, it is also a blessing.
You can think big picture and small picture. I mean you are reading a blog. You are breathing in and out. You get to choose how you look at your life. Seriously. I hope you’ll look at all of the chapters of your year. Losses, because its important to acknowledge them and learn from them, but not let them take over your life. Things you are thankful for, adventures you got to be part of, and gratitude for your life. Remember that you get to choose every day how you will handle what the universe throws at you. Invite the good stuff into your life by focusing on the good stuff.